Three questions to never ask on a first date
Updated | By Breakfast with Martin Bester
A dating coach revealed the three questions you should never ask on a first date…
It might just be us, but dating has become increasingly difficult in recent years.
With the endless options of dating apps, finding someone to go on a potential date with is not the issue.
The issue comes with the longevity of relationships and then, of course, the dreaded first date.
First dates come with a certain level of pressure and expectation.
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Except for the fear of a first date being awkward, there is also pressure to ensure you put your best foot forward and make a good first impression.
Luckily, US-based dating coach Blaine Anderson is here to help.
According to CNBC, Anderson shared the three questions you should never ask on a first date to ensure you make a good impression.
Here are the three questions to never ask on a first date:
1. What's your dating history?
"The only category of questions I'd advise singles to avoid outright on early dates is around dating history," she says. "There's no need to bring exes into your first dates. Stay present, and focus on the here and now."
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"Be playful, and ask questions that will make your date smile," Anderson says. Prying about an ex is unlikely to do that.
2. This was great! Do you want to go on another date?
"Planning for the second date is a form of courtship, a form of testing that mutual interest," she says. "That's why I like to leave the first date open. I like leaving that planning process intact. Now, one person has to take a little bit of a risk."
"If you ask someone if they want to go on a second date, 99% of the time they'll say, 'yes' because it's so awkward not to say yes," she says.
Rather than outright asking for a second date, bring the conversation back to a restaurant or experience you both discussed.
"You can say, 'We should totally check that out sometime,'" Lee says. "You're alluding to something in the future, but you're not asking them to do it."
3. Drinks have been fun — should we get dinner now?
Not wanting a date to end could be a good sign, but that doesn’t mean the date should continue.
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"The problem with the seven-hour first date is you have this false sense of really being intimate without knowing if over time they will be consistent," she said.
"As good as it feels, even if you're on the most amazing date, I'd encourage people to stop after the second round of drinks.
"Leave wanting more. If the magic is there, it will lead to a second date."
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