Protect Yourself: 10 manipulative phrases to spot in people
If someone uses any of these ten phrases, they might be trying to manipulate you...
We all know that one person who is always the victim in every situation and who will go to great lengths to prove they are victims, even if it means manipulating others.
They use manipulative words to make others feel guilty or confused.
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Here are ten phrases people might use to manipulate you according to:
"You're Overreacting."
When someone tells you "you're overreacting" when you're upset about something they did, they are attempting to downplay your feelings and make you doubt their significance, often used by those who seek to portray themselves as victims.
"I'm Only Doing This For You."
When someone says "I'm only doing this for you," it's often a manipulative tactic to justify controlling behavior and make you feel guilty for questioning their actions, so remember that true care involves respecting boundaries and considering your feelings.
"Nobody Understands Me Like You Do."
The statement "You're the only one who truly comprehends me" could be used as a manipulative tactic to gain sympathy and avoid accountability for one's actions, highlighting the importance of not letting such words influence one's judgment.
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"I Always End Up Getting Hurt."
When someone repeatedly claims, "I always end up getting hurt," they are employing a manipulative tactic known as "playing the victim" to make you feel responsible for their emotional well-being and gain control over your actions.
"I Don't Know What I'd Do Without You."
Often when manipulative people declare, "I can't live without you," it's an emotional ploy to make you feel indispensable and obligated to stay with them out of guilt or fear, but it's crucial to remember that you're not responsible for their happiness, and it's okay to prioritize your own well-being.
"I'm Sorry You Feel That Way."
In some relationships, partners might use the phrase "I'm sorry you feel that way" as a manipulative non-apology, deflecting responsibility and dismissing the other person's feelings, emphasizing the importance of expecting sincere apologies that acknowledge valid emotions.
"You're Not Listening To Me."
Manipulative individuals use the phrase "You're not listening to me" as a diversion tactic to deflect criticism, dismiss your perspective, and make you feel guilty for expressing your thoughts and feelings, but it's essential to remember the importance of a balanced conversation where both perspectives are valued.
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"Can't You Do Anything Right?"
The phrase is a harsh tactic used by individuals with low self-esteem to attack your self-confidence, attempting to shift their own insecurities onto you and make you doubt your abilities and worth, so it's crucial to believe in yourself and not let their hurtful words undermine your self-confidence.
"I Had No Other Choice."
The phrase "I had no other choice" is often used to justify actions and avoid responsibility, but it's important to recognize that there are always choices and hold individuals accountable for their actions instead of allowing them to evade consequences with such excuses.
"It's Always My Fault, Isn't It?"
When manipulative people employ self-pity and say, "Look at me, always messing up," it's a tactic to avoid taking responsibility by making you feel sorry for them, so it's essential not to fall for it and recognize their manipulation.
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