Love yourself enough to get married - to yourself?

Love yourself enough to get married - to yourself?

More and more people are getting married - to themselves!

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According to the dictionary "Sologamy is marriage by a person to oneself."

"Supporters of the practice argue that it affirms one's own value and leads to a happier life. An alternative term is self-marriage, but this may also refer to a self-uniting marriage, that is a marriage without an officiant."

But what does this even mean? And is it legal? Well, no, it's not recognized and there are no benefits, other than self-love! So then why? 

We can blame, or thank, Sex and The City for introducing us to this trend back in 2003 when Carrie declared she was marrying herself! In recent years, the trend has become more popular with more and more women having "weddings" to cement their decision to live alone.

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•«—— W I F E Y ——»• Here’s a fun fact; 3 years ago, I married myself. I was fresh out of a longish relationship (the last of a string I had serial-dated my way through for 10yrs) and discovering who I was as an individual for the first time EVER. I was learning so much about myself -that I am actually an introvert (who loves uplifting company), that I don’t really like parties (but I LOVE dancing), that I love sleeping with the curtains and windows open (to hear the waves and greet the morning), that I had a lot more talents and capabilities than I gave myself credit for... And that I had been horribly neglecting my relationship with myself my ENTIRE adult life! ...so I set to change that. I held a beautiful ceremony with the Indian Ocean as my witness, and I pledged to love and fulfil myself, to treat myself with respect and honour, to seek out and get to know the burning passions of my heart and bring the desires I felt rise through me into life. To follow my own path, and never again sway from it to meet another’s expectations or preferences. To love myself first. To meet my own needs. To create my own happiness. And I’m happy to report, 3 years in and I am going strong! I mean, I think I’m the one! I opened my heart to the most extraordinary man not long after, who not only understood but fully supported (and continues to support) my commitment to myself. In being so clear on my values and boundaries I have been able to bring a much more ‘healthy’ and loving me to our partnership which means we are expanding rapidly, together. Swipe left to see the ring! ((Spoiler: It’s an arrow. To remind me to follow my own path and continue straight in the direction of my dreams)). #happyanniversary #ichooseme #selflove

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With some people calling the movement narcissistic, I can't help but be inwardly proud of these women, and some men, for owning who they are without apology and being brave enough to take this step to tell the world they are enough!

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