5 things to stop doing if you want to heal
Far too often, we cling to parts of our old selves that no longer serve us, holding onto ideas about healing that actually stand in the way of true growth.
As we come together to celebrate a time of connection, family, and friendship, it feels important to reflect on the concept of healing.
Too often, we hold onto the things that have hurt us, finding it difficult to release them. Recently, we came across a video from life and career coach Gavin Ng, who shared valuable insights on this topic.
He shared that his dog and the healing power of nature help him navigate life's challenges.
He also pointed out five common mistakes many of us make when embarking on our healing journeys.
According to Coach Gavin, these are the things we should aim to stop doing to truly heal.
One key takeaway from his message: "We don’t need permission to let go or an apology to move on."
1. Stop chasing closure
Chasing closure from the people who’ve hurt you often leads to frustration. Sometimes, true closure comes from accepting that those individuals were never the ones you needed them to be.
2. Healing doesn't make you a new person
Coach Gavin emphasises that healing doesn’t transform you into a completely new person. The need to heal doesn’t diminish your worth – it affirms your humanity, as it shows you’ve lived and experienced life’s challenges.
3. Stop believing time will heal you
This is a common misconception, according to Coach Gavin. While time may help ease the pain, it won’t automatically heal it. Healing is an active process, not a passive one.
You need to confront the hurt, walk through it, and choose to grow from it. Even if it doesn’t feel like it, you will come out stronger on the other side.
4. Stop expecting your old self to work in your new life
A giant obstacle for many people is letting go of what doesn't serve you. Think of it this way: when you let go of what doesn't, you can make space for what does serve you.
While this can be intimidating, it’s entirely possible. It may mean embracing new friendships, habits, and environments – changes that ultimately serve your well-being.
5. Stop living in the past
Reliving past hurts keeps you stuck in a cycle that prevents healing. You don’t owe anyone an explanation for your journey. Focus on the present and make choices that will shape a future you’ll be proud of.
Healing is a process, so be patient and compassionate with yourself because it doesn’t happen overnight.
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